Single fathers give their children love, support, communication, cooperation, and discipline as well.
Most articles in newspapers or magazines only talk about single mothers raising their children because dads are obsolete in a child’s life. Fathers are not in their children life because they are afraid, denying their children, deceased, dead-beat dads, incarcerated, using illegal substances, abusive, or ended their love affair with the mother of the child.
However, today’s society doesn’t take the time to talk about single fathers in our community. There are single fathers who really want to take care of their children and provide them the necessary implements they need in life. Single fathers give their children love, support, communication, cooperation, and discipline as well. But, they are under appreciated in my opinion because they are viewed in a negative light on television shows such as Divorce Court, Maury, or the Bill Cunningham Show. The men on these television shows are cheaters, liars, abandoned their children, or verbally and physically abusive to their loved ones. So, single fathers are not taken seriously especially when women are so bitter and talk about men in the most callous way. Some women are so cold-hearted towards men especially when they are pregnant with their child. They conduct themselves this way because people are usually telling them, “He’s going to leave you once the baby is born,” or he will start to deny the baby the minute it’s gets overwhelming for him. And nine times out of ten, this is case for teen mothers mainly because young men weren’t taught to be accountable of their actions or they are self-absorbed with their needs only.
Another reason why single fathers are so comical because most women have ruthless views about men because you are considered to be the “exquisite doll” for the time being until the next women comes along. It usually comes down to this because a guy only wants to “hit it and quit it,” in street terms. In other words, young men are only focused on sex, living the fast life, and being manipulative towards women. And the minute a woman tells a men she is pregnant, it’s World War III, you crushed their dreams because they weren’t ready to bring a “seed,” (baby) into this world. Moreover, once they deal with this huge disappointment, they have a baby by someone they barely know.
On the contrary, there are fathers who are willing to step up to the plate despite the situation and take care of their children. Fathers want to take care of their children because they want to have a strong and personal relationship with their children. Men try to establish a relationship with their children if they weren’t close with their own fathers. Single fathers try their best to provide children with food, shelter, clothes on the back, and enroll them in the best educational institution. According to www.fathers.com, there are nearly 1.6 million single fathers and they are growing six percent yearly. 15 percent of U.S men are taking care of their children by themselves. According to www.singleparentcenter.com, it says 90 percent of single fathers are working, 72 percent full time, 18 percent part-time. Men are single fathers because they’re wife is deceased, the relationship with the mother didn’t work out, or the other parent is not stable. Single fathers are most likely to gain full custody of their children after divorce because they have fewer problems that they need to deal with more than women.
Single Parent Center’s statistics says 58 percent of single fathers are not married or divorced. So the information about single fathers based on numerous studies is a newsflash to females because you have to realize ALL SINGLE FATHERS ARE NOT THE SAME. And until females master this concept, they will continue to believe the misconceptions about single fathers. Single fathers are trying to survive in today’s society because they have to be the prime example for their children in the near future. Single fathers want to be a role model for their children, want their children to look up to them and enjoy fatherhood at the same time. But, single fathers have to realize they can’t play the mother role because they should strive to be the best parent they can be to their children. This should be the main priority for them because it will alleviate some of the barriers they have to face since they are running the household. Nevertheless, single fathers have to ignore the stereotypes and negativity and don’t be afraid to ask for help. Men can be stubborn at times but behaving this way doesn’t solve the problems that pertain to your children.
There are television shows that promotes single fathers are caring, generous, loving, and stern in televisions and films. The television show that represents a special bond between father and daughter is “One on One,” with Flex Alexander and Kyla Pratt. The show was about a father who omitted his bachelor’s ways and took care of his teenage daughter. Alexander’s character was always there for his daughter’s blissful and distressing moments in her life. Even though they had their disagreements and counterfeits, they realize they needed love, communication, and trust in order to have a better relationship with each other. Moreover, a movie that advocates fathers’ self-less attitude towards their children is Tyler Perry’s film, “Daddy Little Girls,” with Idris Elba and Gabrielle Union. A single father wants to gain custody of his three daughters because the mother is abusive, wicked, and nefarious. Nonetheless, the mother’s living arrangements is appropriate for her daughters and she tries to use the father’s torment past against him. But Tyler Perry was able to explain to viewers keeping the faith and having your relationship with your children is essential despite adversity. And fathers have to stay optimistic and strong because parenting is not an easy job but it’s a rewarding job in the end.
It’s hard being a single father in today’s society because there are so many life challenges but you have to remember your daily duties and responsibilities as a parent. It’s more than just providing them the necessities because children always have to be nourished with endless love, even when they are adults and go astray at times. I’m not a parent but I understand what parents go through sometimes since I still live with one, my mother. But, I know hard work pays off when a parent is a part of their child’s life and they can share their accomplishments, goals, strengths, and weakness with them. So, to all of my single fathers out there, continue to work hard and remain a pivotal figure in your children lives! We have to remember single fathers have to be acknowledged for their hard work and for dedicating their lives to the needs of their children.